Charles Brammall on why porn over promises
Porn: Please don’t look at it. If you’re married, it kills your sex life with your spouse. And if you do it recently or often enough, you may not be able to orgasm with your spouse. It also makes you less and less able to see your spouse’s body as the wonderful thing it is and you become less and less satisfied with it. As you look at porn, it will become harder and harder to be titillated as your form in your mind the idea of a “perfect” body, which’s the only one that can arouse you anymore.
In my experience, porn is a challenging area for Christian men in particular: In his article “The Porn Industry’s Biggest Customer”, published in Churchleaders on June 21, 2018, Mike Genung relates how Jack Samad, a member of the National Coalition for the Protection of Children and Families, was attending a large Evangelical convention at a hotel in the US.
The hotel Manager noticed him carrying many posters and paraphernalia warning about porn into the conference room. The Manager told Jack he wasn’t surprised and said, “Porn movies in our hotel are accessed at a greater rate during Christian conventions than at any other time.”
Porn is one of those things that promises much and delivers Hell. It promises pleasure and produces misery. I believe it is one of Satan’s (the Father of Lies, for whom lies are his mother tongue) most clever deceits.
At Katoomba Men’s Convention one year, the speaker shared with several thousand men that he had a problem with porn. You could have heard a pin drop. I think it was out of the gathered men’s feelings of guilt as well as anything else. But it was a courageous and challenging thing to do, and I think there should be more of it. How refreshing and helpful it’d be in a men’s group if the guys admitted to each other that they had a problem with porn and asked for the group’s support and prayer.
I suspect other guys in the group would admit to struggling in the same area. In my years in pastoral ministry, people have asked me for help in many things- their jobs, money, marriages, boyfriends and girlfriends and parenting. But not a single person has ever come to me and asked for help with their porn addiction.